The Certified Hypnotist


Woundedness and Shame

Sometimes people hurt us.  They abandon us or abuse us.  It hurts us deeply and causes us shame.  We do all sorts of things to sooth our woundedness and shame and sometimes our body hurts because of shame or woundedness that is unacknowledged. 

The root of shame is where you put your focus.  Oftentimes, when we are feeling a sense of shame it is because we have been putting all of our focus and attention on what hurt us or where we have fallen short.  We get into a stuck state of “why am I like this?”  When we ask the question why, it sends us into an endless loop of answering the question without giving us an exit for the answer.  

Why am I like this?  Because I was abandoned.
Why am I like this? Because I was abused
Why am I like this? Because I made that mistake.

Hypnotic tools give us a different series of questions to ask such as:
How do I want to feel? Good
What do I need to do to make myself feel good? Focus on the value I bring into the world.
How do I focus on the value I bring into the world? List my good traits (Yes you have some!)

Look at the why questions, then look at the “what” and “how” questions and notice how they make you feel differently.  “Why” questions get you stuck and “what” and “how” questions move you toward something.

Certainly, it is good to know sometimes “why” we are the way we are. It can be a good starting point. If you stay in the “why” questions, though, you will get yourself stuck.  Something happened to you or because of you. Once you acknowledge that, it is important to figure out how you want to feel next and what you need to do to get there.
This is what hypnosis does- takes you from where you are (feeling bad about yourself) to where you want to be: Taking action to make yourself feel better.

When you start to see the value that you bring into the world despite what has happened to you you are acting in gratitude.  Gratitude is the deliberate focusing on the value of yourself or even other people in your life.  How you value yourself or another person (or even objects) will directly determine how you treat it.  If I paid $10,000 for a coat, you better believe I am going to treat that coat well, because I value it.  The same can happen to you. Instead of focusing on what makes you feel unworthy and asking why you feel that way, you can actively and deliberately ask yourself: “What makes me valuable?”  Or you can ask that of another person, “What value do I see in that person?”  What hypnosis can do is to turn your attention from the “why of shame” to the “what” of gratitude.  When you do this it changes your feelings from negative shame induced feelings to really good feelings of gratitude and love!

Something that often accompanies shame is the need to forgive the person who might have neglected or abused you.  That can be difficult sometimes because we don’t want to justify or give permission for what they did or even acknowledge the hurt in the first place.  So we hold a grudge or a resentment which makes us feel feeling of guilt which can actually deepen our feelings of shame!
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you agree with them or with what they did.  It simply frees you from anger, guilt, resentment, and all the other negative feelings.

Imagine how good it would feel to be free of those feelings!  It would feel really good now, wouldn’t it!?

When we are dealing with pain in our lives, a lot of our focus can end up on bad memories, either intentionally or unintentionally.  Funny thing about the brain is it doesn’t really know fact from fiction.  A vivid memory or thought is as real to the brain as if it were actually happening.  In several studies, they showed people a basketball in an fMRI machine and scanned their brains.  Then they simply asked them to THINK of a basketball.  Everything fired the same!  So when we have a memory of a bad thing that happened to us it causes us to relive it.  What hypnosis can do is to LITERALLY change the memory and how we experience it.  Change how you experience the memory and you will change how it affects you. Imagine if that memory that keeps haunting you could change so much that it no longer makes you feel bad!  How would your life be?!

So, when you refocus on gratitude and value or refocus your bad memories and feelings into forgiveness and peace you get a new start.  The things of the past can actually be pillars of strength instead of anchors that hold you back from realizing your full potential.  If you had a new start, think about where you would go from here! That can make you feel very excited now!


Change a bad habit, deal with sadness, pain, stress, or prepare for that upcoming flight, speech, or surgery so you feel better.


Is there a skill you’d like to make even better?! Hypnosis can do that!


You could change one thing? What would your life be like?


Peak Performance

Using proven techniques enjoyed by superstars around the world in sports, music, acting, and experts in every field, you will find that hypnosis can help you get into an excellent state and focus on the right things to make yourself successful in any environment.


You have YOUR side of the loop and they have THEIR side of the loop. You feed into their loop and they feed into yours. Change your loop and change their loop and change the relationship.


Imagine what would happen if you can “forget” about your physical or emotional discomfort even a few minutes a day. Think about how your life would change.


Pretend for a second you didn’t have that pesky habit… you know the one I am talking about! Suppose you got rid of it and how much better your life would be when it was gone.

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Joshua Wagner has been helping people cope with the stresses and difficulties of life for the last 15 years. He has a vast tool box and resources at his disposal to move you from where you are to where you want to be.

Let him help you, now, with everything you need to be a happy and successful person with fulfilling relationships!

How You Benefit from Hypnosis


How fast can the human brain learn something? FAST!

How many times do you need to touch a stove to learn it is hot?! ONCE! That’s how fast you can learn!

Your unconscious mind is so powerful that it can learn things really fast, including new strategies to help you develop new skills, destroy habits, and even deal with physical and emotional discomfort!

The best tool that humanity has is right between the ears!


Hypnosis seems like a mystery sometimes and yet all it is is paying attention to the right things and ignoring the wrong things.

It is also a way to train the unconscious mind- that mind that helps you to breathe and makes your heart beat and warns you when the water is too hot in the bathtub, to find new solutions to old problems and to forget unhelpful patterns of thinking

Hypnosis has been used for a long time ( to address all sorts of things though history. Maybe it is time to address YOUR history in order that you can quickly have a better future!


There is an investment with hypnosis, for sure. Sometimes I ask myself, “what would it be like if I never had to deal with this again in my life?” and “think about how much better you’d feel!”

What is it worth to you to eat better? To desire to exercise? To have a good relationship with your spouse, your boss, your friends, your kids, or whomever?

I don’t want to say the word priceless and yet, I can’t think of a more perfect word.


Here are some truths about hypnosis and when you read them you can start to relax and feel better about hypnosis:

  • Hypnosis is a process that you participate in fully
  • You are in complete control
  • It is a cognitive process
  • If you can read a book, watch a movie, have a conversation in a crowded room… guess what! You can be hypnotized!!!

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